Smile and the world smiles with you, frown and you frown alone

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Did you know that when we communicate we are understood more from our facial expression and body language than by the words we choose - which only make up 7%. 

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Did you know that when we communicate we are understood more from our facial expression and body language than by the words we choose - which only make up 7%.

Last Thursday for the inaugural Business Woman Scotland conference in Glasgow I was part of the experts panel with top stylist Nicky Hambleton-Jones, celebrity nutritionist Amanda Hamilton and the very engaging TV presenter Vanessa Collingridge.  What interests me is how far women have come since the 80's when women tried to emulate men, power dressing and clambering over each other to get promoted.

Sisters are now really doing it for themselves

Sisters are now really doing it for themselves and sisterhood is actively fostered by organisations like Business Woman Scotland and the Edinburgh Women's Business Club, so if you are not a member I whole heartedly encourage you to join.

I am a feminist and I share Vanessa's frustration that we are still under represented in senior management roles. I understand from personal experience that being perceived in a serious and positive light by our colleagues is so important.

Women have particular challenges with personal presentation. Unfairly we age more quickly than our male peers. So you may be giving off negative facial communication purely because your face at rest looks tired and worn out. 

Why is this important? Because you are telling the world you are exhausted, moody, cross or grumpy when you are perfectly content inside. Our colleagues react to our facial signals, they cant help it!

95% of my work is freeing women from these negative expressions, so that they can continue to communicate positively. What took me by surprise, when I first started, was how much more positive you then feel about yourself.

Best wishes and keep smiling

Victoria

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